Do you know how to get what you want in life? Most of the time not if I am guessing correctly? Remember that you only live once and life is fleeting, so you need to know how to get what you want out of life! There are many ways in which to do just this.
How To Get What You Want
What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Really Want
We have all been told at one point or another how life isn’t fair. While this is true, simply knowing this fact alone still doesn’t make us feel any better when something that we really want seems to avoid us.
However, when this occurs there are ways of handling the situation that are far more productive than taking on an attitude of defeat and feeling sorry for ourselves.
Here are a couple of key things to consider during periods of disappointment brought on by not attaining something your heart desires.
Appreciate The Needs And Things You Have
Being able to separate the things you need from what you want is extremely important in life. All around the world, there are people constantly deprived of even the most basic things most of us take for granted. While it is in no way wrong to pursue things other than the basic needs, try to avoid getting these things mixed up.
If you will look at each situation in which you don’t get something you want, I can guarantee that if you really think about it, you can find something in your life that you DO have to balance it out.
If you were to go through life getting anything and everything you wanted, how much do you think you would appreciate those times when you actually do get what you were going for?
Honestly Reflect On Why You Didn’t Get What You Wanted
As time goes on, we all have situations or things we can look back on that didn’t work out, only to realize that what seemed like a tragedy at the time clearly worked out for the best.
Although it can be impossible to realize at the moment, sometimes not getting something serves as a fork in the road, redirecting us to something much better.
Whatever you are feeling like you missed out on, the thing that slipped through your grasp, make an effort to glance up the road. If you do so, you may be able to realize that this failure could very well be for your benefit.
Even if what you wanted may not be harmful or a detriment to your life moving forward, the sheer disappointment of falling short can easily provide the motivation you need to go after something even better!
There are endless examples of people achieving fantastic things and accrediting their success to past failures.
Mindset
Another thing that could be hindering you when it comes to how to get what you want is your mindset. Do you really believe that you deserve these things? Do you believe you are worthy of getting what you want? Do you have a small negative little voice somewhere in there that is putting doubt into your mind?
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You need to, first of all, believe that you can have what you want, then you need to set the goals to get you there. Write down your goals and make sure that you truly want to get yourself there 100 percent.
If it is a big goal that you are reaching for, you will need to break your goal down into manageable steps to get you there. Here is an article you can look at that will help you with this.
Visualize already having achieved your goals. Close your eyes. What do you see? Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? How does it feel? Take a few moments each day to make your goal come to life in the stillness of your mind. Meditation also helps in this regard.
Try Again!
Okay, so what if you have looked at all of the things above, but still honestly believe you are supposed to have the thing that illuded you? If this is the case, regroup and try again! Rest assured, most of the things worth having are not going to come easily or just fall into your lap. If this were the case, they wouldn’t be nearly as fulfilling when we do eventually get them.
If something that you didn’t get or achieve is constantly troubling your mind, this may very well be a sign that it is meant for you, just not right now. Only you can determine whether or not something is right for you.
However, once you have made the decision that it is, be ready to fight for it!
I could insert any number of motivational quotes such as “fall seven times, stand up eight” or “fail forward,” but the fact is, the life of a successful individual is filled with failures.
It is how you deal with these failures that separate winning in the long run from going through life resentful and feeling sorry for yourself.
Never allow yourself to give up in the pursuit of anything you truly believe is supposed to be yours.